Helen Mead: Thought of change is the worry

Helen Mead: Thought of change is the worry

Helen Mead: Thought of change is the worry

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A NEW computer system has been installed in the office, changing the way we work. We all – techno-wizards and Luddites alike – had to get to grips with it, and fast.

Not everyone welcomes change. It is probably true to say that the majority of us don't like it.

Last month, when the train timetables altered, as they tend to a couple of times a year, Leeds Station swarmed with frantic-looking people rushing this way and that, staring at the information screens, shouting at the guards, grumbling at the tops of their voices. It was mayhem.

The service I catch was replaced – at a less convenient time – by an uncomfortable series of rickety carriages more suited to animal transportation.

Waiting on the platform with other commuters, we all agreed, we hated change.

It's not just in relation to logistical things like that, which if we are honest, annoy all of us. Some of us are unnerved by change of any sort, even to the TV schedules.

I once worked with a woman whose daily routine you could set your watch by.

She once broke out in a cold sweat when her favourite soap moved to a different day and panicked when our office relocated to a building 300 yards down the road.

Allergy to change affects people of all ages. My daughter is about to leave sixth form, and hopefully go to university. She has enjoyed school but is excited at the prospect of a new chapter in her life, whereas others are worried about the huge change that is about to take place.

I was bereft when my school days came to an end. I remember having to hold back tears travelling home on the school bus that last time.

It was not only because I liked sixth form, but that I realised that life would never again be the same, that my friends would go their separate ways, and that I would leave my family home, perhaps forever -– which was, in fact, how things turned out.

For some this can be terrifying: the idea of heading out to fend for yourself when, for the past 18 years, you've been enveloped by the comforts of home.

Of course the expression 'a change is as good as a rest' is very true, and holidays certainly put a spring in our steps. And many changes are definitely for the good. It's the idea of them and getting used to them that creates problems.

The new computer system at work wasn't anywhere near as scary as we'd imagined.

Compared with the old one, it's a welcome change.

But I still can't get used to the new railway timetable.

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2:35am Mon 23 Jun 14

Parly says...

Top Tip to help you deal with the latest trauma Helen.

Look up the train journey you're going to be taking by searching the National Rail website (very easy to use) and then click the option to set up an alert / have the details sent to your phone by text. That's it. It's that simple and you'll never have to worry about pesky timetables and the hustle and bustle of countless other folk that haven't realised what wonders you can find via the internet.

On a different note, glad to hear your daughter is looking forward to whatever the next chapter in her life is going to bring and not clinging to what she knows like a needy toddler. :)
Top Tip to help you deal with the latest trauma Helen. Look up the train journey you're going to be taking by searching the National Rail website (very easy to use) and then click the option to set up an alert / have the details sent to your phone by text. That's it. It's that simple and you'll never have to worry about pesky timetables and the hustle and bustle of countless other folk that haven't realised what wonders you can find via the internet. On a different note, glad to hear your daughter is looking forward to whatever the next chapter in her life is going to bring and not clinging to what she knows like a needy toddler. :) Parly
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1:01pm Thu 3 Jul 14

333333 says...

Worry about not having the strength and courage and humility it takes to change the way you feel.
Worry about not having the strength and courage and humility it takes to change the way you feel. 333333
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1:04pm Thu 3 Jul 14

333333 says...

If you have to worry about change, try to worry about changing that, Helen.
If you have to worry about change, try to worry about changing that, Helen. 333333
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1:06pm Thu 3 Jul 14

333333 says...

What makes you so iconic.?
What makes you so iconic.? 333333
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1:11pm Thu 3 Jul 14

333333 says...

Women like changes when they are on their own terms. They have nothing against the changes that are on their own terms. Its the changes that are not on their own terms that women in an office don't like.
Women like changes when they are on their own terms. They have nothing against the changes that are on their own terms. Its the changes that are not on their own terms that women in an office don't like. 333333
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1:21pm Thu 3 Jul 14

333333 says...

There are a lot of men who don't have the strength, or the courage or the humility, to take the quantum leap of emotional intelligence required to change the way they feel. They usually marry men, go for men and have men without the know-how for boyfriends, pets and dads.
There are a lot of men who don't have the strength, or the courage or the humility, to take the quantum leap of emotional intelligence required to change the way they feel. They usually marry men, go for men and have men without the know-how for boyfriends, pets and dads. 333333
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1:28pm Thu 3 Jul 14

333333 says...

Some employers go for women who don't have the emotional intelligence to change the way they feel.
Some employers go for women who don't have the emotional intelligence to change the way they feel. 333333
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1:34pm Thu 3 Jul 14

333333 says...

There are some women who can't transform hate into love in their own office.
There are some women who can't transform hate into love in their own office. 333333
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1:42pm Thu 3 Jul 14

333333 says...

My top tip for Helen is - stop being the victim of your own trauma.
My top tip for Helen is - stop being the victim of your own trauma. 333333
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