Helen Mead: I just lack the resolve these days

Chorley Citizen: Helen Mead: I just lack the resolve these days Helen Mead: I just lack the resolve these days

This is the week when we set about changing ourselves. Or at least we make promises to do so. Lose weight, get a new job, stop smoking — we mentally plan to do all these things.

But do we achieve them? Three-quarters of us don’t.

Around 78 per cent of people struggle to fulfil their New Year resolutions. We get all fired-up on New Year’s Eve but within hours we are back into our daily routines and those grand plans are forgotten.

Year after year I ask myself why is it so difficult to incorporate a few extra activities into my life? I haven’t got an answer. Do I have time to attempt to write a novel? Can I fit in a daily jog around the block? Do I have chance to decorate the house?

The answer to these questions is, if I really wanted to, YES.

So why don’t I fulfil these resolutions and do all these things? It must be down to lack of drive, of energy, of get-up-and-go. I used to have it — most definitely. At one time in my life, if I wanted to do something I would take pains to do it, but now, in my fifties, I can’t muster up the enthusiasm. Sometimes, I wonder whether I have any enthusiasm left.

“You and dad are so boring,” my youngest daughter frequently tells us, as we try to explain how we enjoy evenings in front of Countryfile and Antiques Roadshow.

I’ve certainly got more drive than my husband. I still organise days out and holidays. If it was down to him we would never leave the house. But I don’t have the spring in my step and the eagerness that I used to have, particularly when it comes to trying new things. I am, to coin a well-used phrase, ‘set in my ways’. And people who are set in their ways shouldn’t make New Year’s resolutions.

Of course, this can’t possibly account for the vast majority of the population who fail to fulfil their pledges. Many will be lively young things with boundless enthusiasm for everything. What’s their excuse?

Maybe it’s the pressure of having to do something by a certain date. It’s a bad job when a year is too short a time to spur us into action. But years do, as we say as we grow older, fly by. I’ve been planning to write a novel for the past 20 years. I often picture myself sitting at the keyboard in full flow, but have yet to type one letter.

Maybe, whatever our age, we are all just plain lazy. Sadly, I think that’s the most likely explanation.

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1:20pm Tue 31 Dec 13

Ken Shuffles says...

Actually, it defies all my logic that someone as intelligent as you are would consider entertaining me for one minute or giving me the slightest amount of attention anytime of year let alone your street address and number. Your challenging my emotional territories and boundaries every day and even though you are the scariest most challenging woman I have ever met, at the same time, I know I haven't done anything to deserve someone as special as you are in my life.
Actually, it defies all my logic that someone as intelligent as you are would consider entertaining me for one minute or giving me the slightest amount of attention anytime of year let alone your street address and number. Your challenging my emotional territories and boundaries every day and even though you are the scariest most challenging woman I have ever met, at the same time, I know I haven't done anything to deserve someone as special as you are in my life. Ken Shuffles

1:41pm Tue 31 Dec 13

Ken Shuffles says...

I'm very enthusiastic about being with you, even when the prospect of changing everything is terrifying.
I'm very enthusiastic about being with you, even when the prospect of changing everything is terrifying. Ken Shuffles

11:38am Thu 2 Jan 14

Ken Shuffles says...

You make me see things in a new way and myself in a new light. You make me consider myself in ways I have never considered myself before. You have the sexiest intellect and most tranforming intelligence of any woman I have ever met and when I realise you love me, you acknowledge me, you accept me, you recognise me, its almost too much to take in I'm so dizzy.
You make me see things in a new way and myself in a new light. You make me consider myself in ways I have never considered myself before. You have the sexiest intellect and most tranforming intelligence of any woman I have ever met and when I realise you love me, you acknowledge me, you accept me, you recognise me, its almost too much to take in I'm so dizzy. Ken Shuffles

11:57am Thu 2 Jan 14

Ken Shuffles says...

I'm not coming to physically inconvenience you this afternoon stalketta.
I'm not coming to physically inconvenience you this afternoon stalketta. Ken Shuffles

11:30am Fri 3 Jan 14

Ken Shuffles says...

Just remember I own you, I am going to get you and I am going to eat you.
Just remember I own you, I am going to get you and I am going to eat you. Ken Shuffles

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